Whether it's from being an HSP or an introvert, or both, the gigantic mismatch between the amount of down time I seem to need, and the actual time I have left after working and running a household continues to be a major issue. As I discussed in The Limitations of Being Highly Sensitive, putting in the number of hours I needed to work on the job I’m soon to leave has been very difficult. Now that things have soured with my boss, I’m feeling even less motivated.
So I was heartened to stumble across this repost. The name of her blog alone (idontknowhowshedoesntdoit.blogspot.com) is enough to brighten your day, right? Elizabeth McFarlane argues that down time actually creates energy. At least, I thought she did. When I went back and read the article just now, she doesn’t say exactly that. But close enough. That reminded me of Dr. Carmella’s (cartoon) Guide to Understanding the Introverted, which sums up: “Introverted people make their own energy and, rather than taking it from others, give it on social contact.”
Some extroverts are offended by this characterization, which they perceive as an accusation that they are energy vampires. I think of them more as lifelong energy hackysack players, perpetually passing energy back and forth between themselves.
But I digress. The point is, a number of people, including famous and infamous therapists, seem to feel that down time is generative. This doesn’t totally offset the self-questioning that ensues when I notice how many people around me apparently have little or no need for down time, but it helps a little.
With self-acceptance, that is. But how in heck do I get paid for that???